Someone asked me on Facebook, “What is the hardest thing to do in life?”. I answered, “Doing nothing?”, thinking that he is just initiating a joke. Then, he answered, “It’s moving on.”. He sounds like he is still joking around (because that is his usual character) but if I will consider my instinct; it’s obvious that he’s not yet moved on from his previous relationship. Or, he does not know if he has moved on already or not. Time heals all wounds. Still, there comes a time when we wonder if we have moved on already from a painful relationship.
So, how would you know if you have moved on already? Of course there are always signs that you are moving on! My friend above is a guy. The list below goes primarily with the girls but guys can also enjoy this specially if you can relate!
1. You’re heart does not pound like “dug-dug-dug-dug-dug” anymore when he is around. You will know it if you always see him at work or at school. Or, when you suddenly see him at the mall or at the street.
2. You’re not checking his profile on Facebook or any social networking sites that he is using. You are not wondering anymore about what he is currently doing in his life. And, even if you clicked on his profile, you do not feel affected if you see him in photos with another girl.
3. You can reply on his text messages without feeling bitter. Some chooses to ignore their ex-boyfriend’s text messages. But, it will be better to show him that you are now BETTER and not BITTER. Just reply him without the silent hope that you will be again together. Now, you see his name in your inbox just like an ordinary texter.
4. You saw that dress he gave to you in your closet but you did not even flinch. You know that he gave it to you but it did not made you miss him. Instead, you deem that you can use that dress in other occasions so it’s better to be in there.
5. You stopped wondering when he will call, text or send you an e-mail. You know that your phone will not ring anymore the way it was and you don’t care. You know that he will not text you or attempt to send you an e-mail. You know that it is all over and you can feel your peace of mind.
6. You saw him in person with another girl and you don’t even feel jealous. Just be nice when they tried to approach you.
7. If someone asks you if you have a boyfriend, you will just simply say NONE or NO. It’s because you know and you’re heart says that you are now ready for a new relationship.
8. You’re not badmouthing him with other people. Some girls do it! You cannot move on from him if you continue badmouthing him. The worst thing that may happen to you is you will be left by your friends because you are always saying the same things. Just be cool.
9. It was his birthday last Monday and you don’t remember until this morning. Well, maybe you are too busy thinking about other’s birthday!
10. You feel contented wherever you go. You are now single and you are happy with it.
11. No crying moments when you remember him. You’re not crying every single night because you are over-thinking the memories you shared together.
12. You do not think about him when you are with another guy. You don’t compare this guy to your Ex. Certainly, you see this guy as he is and not as your Ex.
13. You can share the story behind your break-up when your friend asked about it. You are now comfortable to tell your story. You’ve learned your lessons and you are now laughing at your mistakes.
14. You don’t hold any grudge for him. You are just happy for him.
15. You can say to yourself that you have moved on without doubts. If you can do this, then you are already moved on.
Usually, you know from yourself that everything is over. The tips above are just indicators that he is completely out of your life as a boyfriend. Enjoy!
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