Being single is easy but being happy is another story. We know that being single can bring loneliness to a person particularly if he is made to couple. Being single can happen in many different reasons. It’s either you broke-up with your over-controlling boyfriend or you chose to be single all the way. Some believe that being single is boring, that is why they keep finding their partners after each break-up. For me, it is one of the most debilitating actions one can do after a painful relationship because it can only cause problems in the long run. It will be better to relax while you are single and have most of your time with yourself.
Let’s kill the boredom in your singledom! You know, there are a lot of people who celebrate their singleness while some remain in pain. We can say that being single is both a blessing and a pain.
Being single is a pain if:
your singleness is caused by a past – If you’re still doomed by your past relationship, you may feel lonely and miserable. Some remain this way until they found a new relationship and the cycle of breaking-up and being a couple goes on endlessly.
you are always looking for an intimate relationship – You envy every couple you see at the mall and you always wish that you’re that girl. You are longing for someone to hold your hands, hug you and kiss you. Your desire for an intimate relationship may push you to watch romance movies. Latterly, you’ll feel too affected by the characters and hope for a perfect love. Then, you’ll end up seeing yourself always daydreaming about your prince every second of the day!
you are affected by social stigma – Some believe that being single holds a certain amount of stigma. You may feel it when all of your friends have partners every time you go to the party and you just sit alone somewhere. Though, it is nice to get married and have someone to come home to, it’s not the case with other people! We must put in mind that being single must not become an identity because it is just a matter of fact.
you feel bored all the time – It is the feeling of not wanting to go anywhere because you don’t have any company. You’re anxious that you’ll not enjoy your walk so you end up staying at home doing your boring routine!
On the other hand, being single is a blessing because:
you can do whatever you want with your life – No one will judge you the way you do things. And, the only insecurities that you will deal with are your own. You can do what your heart desires anywhere at any time like: going anywhere, going with anyone, doing your own hobbies, partying overnight, etc.. I would like to add that, you will never get annoyed because no one will tell you that you cannot go, you can’t do this, etc..
of financial security – You do not need to compromise with your wife or with your husband your one-month salary. You can definitely buy anything you want and there would be no one who’ll say that what you bought is nonsense. You have most of the time for your career. Therefore, you will be able to pay all your bills.
inlaws will never become an issue – How many comedy TV series have portrayed living with in-laws as a joke? According to research, living with in-laws can raise a woman’s chance of developing heart disease up to three times! Living with in-laws is a common issue particularly with married couples. In-laws become annoying when they disagree about how to raise kids and when they criticize how you cook and clean the house.
you have your own house, car and space – What about the blessing of finding your things where you put them exactly? You can meditate whenever you want. And, no one will tell you to keep the noise down!
you have your own schedule – Every holiday trip is your own call. You don’t need to discuss your trips with someone and no one will say that you cannot go.
So, how can you be happy being single? You have all the blessings but you still feel losing because everyone is paired off except you! Don’t be ashamed because we are now living in a time where most relationships have no guarantee that will last a life time. Just read the easy steps below and sooner you will realize that being single can give you more benefits. And, the prince that you always dream about is just an icing on a cake!
1. Focus on your career. Get rich! (Just kidding.. ^^) But it makes sense at some point. You’ll never be single forever. Eventually, you will think about settling down. Focusing on your career can be a way to gear up your future. And, you will have enough time choosing the right man for you. However, it can lead you to the right direction if you are not really a marrying type. Just relax and stay focused. You now have much time for your success.
2. Reality check. Stop your envious look at each couple you see at the street. You are single. That is the reality. Always remind yourself why you want to be single. Stop fantasizing about the leading man in the movie you just watched. Their actions are unnatural because the director told them to. Those movies are made to become a box-office hit and not to become your fantasy world. Accept the reality and be happy about it.
3. Find a new hobby. What a great opportunity to find a new hobby and enhance your own talents! Try something new. Sometimes, you need to leave your comfort zone so you can find a better place. Try doing outdoor activities like skating, jogging and sight-seeing. Meet friends. Go to the gym. Try painting, cross-stitching and cooking even if you cannot do it in the past. You’ll never trade the excitement that you might feel about your new knowledge and skills!
4. Don’t listen to society. The society is one of the best pressure sources of our lives. It is either your Mom forcing you to get married or your friends who constantly ask you if you are already dating anyone. Just do whatever you want to do. You have this kind of freedom and I assure you, they envy you for that. Ask a married woman for 20 years and she will surely wish to be a single woman again!
5. Be happy about yourself. Don’t feel ashamed to go in a restaurant alone. Just enter and treat yourself. Stigma will only affect you if you allow it to. Stop all the negations in your life; always look at the positive. It’s the right time to be the best person you can ever be to others as well as to yourself. Pamper yourself; go to the salon or spa. You deserve a new nail polish. Take note that you cannot make anyone happy if you are not happy about yourself. Be beautiful, be happy!
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